Double Mazel Tov (and more)

A common criticism of Heeb is that Heeb isn’t really a part of either “engagement” or “continuity” in any meaningful way. Of course, many friends of ours, even on the center-right, appear to disagree, and have been quite supportive of us despite our “irreverence.” I personally don’t worry about such things. What I do know is that “Young Jewish Professional” events don’t work for everyone, and Heeb’s events apparently do work for some of those who do not want to pay $36 and pretend Jew-yuppy “fun” is natural, or has anything to do with them. For many Jews, it has nothing to do with them, and it is no mitzvah to be a yuppy.

Heeb’s publisher, Josh Neuman, is so excited over these Heeb couplings that he “can’t seem to stop making references to Russia,” and gives a recent breakdown of two marriages he knows came through Heeb, because they’re…well, staff. But there have been others, and at least one has made it into the print edition.

Is Heeb about “hooking up,” or is it about something more substantial? Well, maybe this is just the instant coffee talking (my machine broke), but I personally think the parties are indicative of what most Heebsters really want. People come early, crowd the space to the point where it’s hard to move, slam down drinks…but usually, by 1:30 am, it’s over. And that’s when they don’t have to work the next day. On weeknights (and most events are on weeknights), it’s often over by 12:15.

Why?

I think people are actually interested in meeting someone for real. They seek…relationships. And sometimes those lead to…marriage. That means getting and giving names and numbers, but not staying too late and giving away the goods too soon. You want to spend more time with her, you have to make the call another day. I don’t mean to say there is no chance of scoring something in one night, it definitely happens, and I can assure you that the fact that I can’t give you a personal example of such luck is hardly indicative of your chance of success. I am just describing what it looks like generally.

Anyway, this wasn’t supposed to be about my own lack of “hooking up,” which of course I condemn, and don’t want anyway, not at all, so…please see Heeb HQ (Heeb’s blog) for the most recent Orthodox wedding, and note that the shidduch was made at a Heeb happening.

So anyway, if you want to help Heeb, and you are single, please go to a Heeb event, get married, and send them a picture. No one is asking you for a donation, okay?

(Photo “borrowed” from Josh Neuman.)