Category — Education

Shmarya “The Heretic” Rosenberg explains how it works.

Liberal and Secular Jewish Parents, Warn Your Teens Not to Accept Candy From Strangers, or Pizza From NCSY/JSU!

The Orthodox Union president, Stephen Savitsky is busy. Busy, busy, busy. Turning liberal Jewish kids into yeshiva products! Thanks to the OU, your kid can have the value system you instilled in him replaced in a mere six weeks!

Steve Savitsky, the president of the Orthodox Union, the parent organization of NCSY, writes in the official organ of the OU, Jewish Action that,

“Six weeks of a camping experience can turn a Jewish public school student into a yeshivah product.”

Isn’t that wonderful?

Remember, though, it’s a process:

1) JSU public school recruitment through pizza parties
2) Latte and Learning
3) Shabbatons
4) Trips

Now, for those kids who are really open to rejection of western civilization and replacing it with a flat-out fundamentalist approach, have we got a trip for you! NCSY’s Kollel trip – because nothing advocates “Modern” Orthodoxy quite like “Kollel.”

“Six weeks of NCSY Kollel can transform a nice day school student into a budding ben Torah.”

To find a JSU chapter near you (and there are over 170 chapters, most, but not all of which are run by NCSY advisers who want to help your kid think like they do and not like you do, please go here.

These are the goals of NCSY. Not “to get more Jewish teens attending public high schools to do something Jewish! That’s it! It’s that simple!!!” They want to make the into “yeshivah products” — the head of the OU’s own coarse words. Not mine. Or, if they can, to make them into “b’nai Torah” — a type of Orthodoxy usually reserved for black hatters.

This is what they want. This is who they are.

How can this be happening?

The NY Times reports,

Some thought that offering standardized tests was “a crucial step in a prolonged effort to equalize access to programs that critics complained were dominated by white middle-class children whose parents knew how to navigate the system,”

But in fact,

under the new policy, children from the city’s poorest districts were offered a smaller percentage than last year of the entry-grade gifted slots in elementary schools. Children in the city’s wealthiest districts captured a greater share of the slots.

Now, granted…if we were comparing a disparity between rich whites to poor whites, we would not be shocked. But here, where the underclass is overwhelmingly a different race, well…we simply cannot tolerate this!

“the administration is intent on ensuring equal access to the system’s most coveted offerings and closing the racial achievement gap, which Schools Chancellor Joel I. Klein frequently refers to as a critical front in the civil rights battle.”

The NY Times notes,

School districts nationwide are struggling to make gifted programs more racially and economically diverse.

And to think this is even a problem in Jew York City….

Which community’s kids do you think are going to be passed over for the gifted programs for the sake of racial diversity? And don’t kid yourselves…important rich Jews who send their own kids to private schools will be all too willing to rig the schools against middle class Jews in order to prove how progressive they are, and even the majority who won’t support such measures will refrain from fighting them in any significant way.

Why are haredim so fat?

They even raise the point that,

Some might blame sedentary lifestyles…

Yes. Some might blame just that.

Most schools give their students a 30-minute gym session once a week, but many contend that is simply not enough.

Guest post by Sarah/Froylein

Being taken to task for something I haven’t neither said nor insinuated, namely that single motherhood means a lot of work and that there are situations in which single motherhood becomes inevitable, and, as a Chinese proverb says, “The hit dog barks”, and I’ve obviously hit a weak spot there, I’d like to add my two cents worth from my personal, private perspective as well from the perspective of one involved in education and educational research. Please bear in mind, my focus are the children and what’s been proved to be good for them. At the end, I’ll add a few thoughts on relationships that just reflect my personal views.

First of all, to set the terminology straight, there’s a word for being proud of something one hasn’t achieved oneself respectively being excessively proud of one’s achievement; it’s called “vanity“. One may be happy, glad etc., but “pride“ semantically as well as philosophically (theologically as well for religious people) serves a highly limited purpose. So people won’t jump at me out of misconception, while I don’t see single motherhood a reason to be prouder than single fatherhood or single parenthood, I also don’t aim to undermine the efforts of parenthood in general. And indeed, I’ve got single mothers in my family as well (two of my cousins are single mothers); my great-great-grandmother raised seven kids by herself – and ran a farm – after her husband had died in an accident when their youngest was only two months old, my great-grandmother’s as well as my father’s mother both died when they were young; a considerable number of my students are single mothers. But that doesn’t make me an expert on single motherhood or single fatherhood.

There are, however, studies one can concern oneself or get involved with that help comparing the different types of parenthood and their educational outcomes at a larger scale. There are a few premises though one needs to lay out when it comes to educational research:
a) everybody believes to be an expert on education as everybody has been educated in some way or has educated in some way;
b) people, unless suffering from depressions, tend to think of themselves as having turned out well, so are not likely to admit having lacked something in their education;
c) people that have educated will more likely find excuses for mishaps than admit to having made mistakes;
d) if educational outcome as well as a trackable on-time maturing process can be determinants of successful parenting, then one must try to determine not only by subjectively surveying but actually researching the relation between family background, educational outcome, and children’s developmental processes (as e.g. PISA and its accompanying studies have done);
e) there always are exceptions to the empirical rule, but, as we say in German, exceptions serve to prove a rule right.

Firstly, why would single motherhood, or single parenthood for that matter, be a reason to be proud? If we can determine pride as happiness over one’s personal achievements, which compare to be higher / of higher quality than others’ achievements, and if there is emphasis placed on the validity / legitimacy of single mothers being proud of being just that, this suggests that parenthood delivered by two caregivers results in fewer or no achievements, hence requires less or no efforts and work from both or either partner. But then, a study that has recently been reported on on the news for instance emphasized that married women with children spend the highest amount of numbers on housework compared to single parents and single adults without children; the women surveyed generally pursued jobs. Anybody who has been in a solid one-on-one relationship for a period of time long enough to go beyond the phase of being in-love (one to four years in general) knows that maintaining a satisfactory loving relationship is “day labour” (R.M. Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet) and requires time and effort on a daily basis. It requires willingness to compromise just as much as to subject oneself to the other’s needs. (More thoughts on relationships below; feel free to grab something to drink before you read on.) Ergo, relationships are time- and energy-consuming.

Secondly, does single parenthood produce the same outcome as “dual” parenthood? As much as a few politicians over here try to make people believe just that, educational research says, “Decidedly no.” The evaluations of multi-national studies (e.g. PISA, IGLU) have clearly shown that children raised by single parents rank decisively lower in educational outcome than their peers with both parents. The reason for that, so the researchers concluded after extensive follow-up studies, was that single parents in Western societies are a) more likely to be found in environments of lower educational backgrounds, and b) parents of lower educational backgrounds in general are less likely to emphasize the importance of learning and / or are less able to support their children’s studying, e.g. by supervising their homework.

Thirdly, how do single parents compensate? While I don’t have the slightest doubt that most single parents try the best they can, I cannot help but wonder why I am supposed to consider this an outstanding achievement as I also think that the majority of parents in general try the best they can to deliver care for their children. Children’s developmental psychologists clearly state that children need both parents, a father and a mother, all the way to adulthood. I certainly do understand and feel for single parents that have lost a partner to unexpected circumstances, but that demographic makes only a minimal percentage of single parents in Western post-industrialized societies. Ideally, educational and psychological research tell us, children grow up in families with one stay-at-home parent, at least until the children get into secondary school. The advantages of those conventional family structures are obvious as it has been shown that children in such families are more likely to get instructed in scholarly and non-scholarly activities, receive regular and more wholesome meals, have got a fixed person to relate to etc. The choice single parents have to make is whether they want to be stay-at-home parents, and consequently rely on others’ funding (be it family or welfare) or working parents, and consequently miss out on much-needed interaction between them and their children and rely on others’ help. Single parents often claim their children learn to stand on their own feet more quickly, but is that really desirable? Also, does having to be self-reliant equal to maturity?
Pre-WW2, children were considered “little adults”, which reflected in the clothing as well in parents’ position on child labour; children were considered their parents’ property, that was used to contribute to the family’s budget. Things only changed gradually when mandatory school education (up to age 13 / 14 in most Western European countries) was introduced. Yet, most children (whose parents could either not afford or actually see the need for secondary education) were thrown into adult work life at age 18. We now know that depriving a child of a gradual maturing process is a way of mind-control and access to manipulation that particularly totalitarian states of 20th century Europe made use of: WW1 saw youths quitting school to sign up with the military, the Nazis as well as the GDR and Soviet communists highlighted the social role of “the worker” over that of a member of the intelligentsia, spoon-feeding that ideology into kids from small on in more-than-less mandatory youth organizations. For a large part of the 20th century, children were deprived of their childhood. Putting a child in a position where it has to “mature” young, i.e. to act like an adult before reaching adulthood – which not necessarily means that a child needs to serve as a soldier – , is not only counter-productive and at large odds possibly harmful to the child’s development, but in terms of what self-acclaimed feminists try to sell to the public, it’s retrogressive, not progressive. I’d strongly wish for the selfish feminist movement that has taken chokehold of the Women’s Rights movement (which placed great emphasis on the welfare of the children cf. the motivations of the Abolitionists and the early organized Jewish women’s trade unions) to focus more on children and their needs as any call for self-fulfilment, IMHO, becomes nil and void if I am not ready to grant the basis needed for self-fulfilment to those I am responsible for.

Another way of compensating a lot of self-acclaimed “progressive” politicians promote over here is full-day daycare delivered by public institutions. I come from the country where kindergartens were invented, but there also was another invention that would become the standard in the former GDR, namely “Kinderhort”, full-day public childcare institutions. How do both kinds of institutions compare? Generally, children enter kindergarten at about age four and go there half-days until they start primary school; kindergarten is voluntary, but many parents opt to send their children there so the little ones may learn to get along within larger groups of same-age peers before starting school. Kindergarten teachers are well-trained professionals (one year of practical training prior and after three years of college) that not only learn about entertaining children but how to evaluate and, if need be, support developmental processes. Now more and more kindergartens are required to offer places for babies and toddlers, some even offer over-night facilities. Particularly the places for babies are limited as newborns, naturally, need a lot of extra cost-, effort- and time-consuming care. Two females in my family happen to run kindergartens. (They’re either public or church- / synagogue-run here, but since there’s a mutual agreement between state and religious bodies, all kindergartens are open to all children; a fee of roughly $150/month is asked from parents for the childcare delivered there; parents that cannot afford this get subsidiary payments from the state.) Both independently report that the lower the age children start kindergarten, the lower their communicative, social, sensory, motor skills are. Both also independently report that the vast majority of parents signing up their newborns and toddlers for kindergarten care are non-working single mothers that express a need “to get a little extra sleep” before dropping their kids off at the kindergarten entrance. Kinderhort was generally attended by children from the cradle on; caregivers there usually were more trained in party doctrine than in children’s education. The Communist ideal of “free love” discouraged traditional marriage and family structures and denounced them as “reactionary”.

Educational researchers regard not only the ailing economy in the former GDR as an important contributor to political extremism, particularly on the right-wing end of the political sphere, but also Kinderhort education as children there, unlike children raised in traditional family structures, did not learn from role models about respect, conflict management, establishing a communicative culture etc. This goes in line with the findings of Adorno, who conducted a series of studies after WW2 on how family structures influence a child’s development to xenophobia / racism. Not only to the researchers’ astonishment, mothers perceived as non-loving, rejecting, and / or emotionally or physically violent were determined more decisive factors in racist youths’ developmental paths than physically violent fathers.

Now, back to the initial question, when comparing single parenthood and “dual” parenthood in conventional family structures regarding trackable on-time maturing process with the aim of letting children grow up to be mature adults, the latter beats the former hands-down.

Just to avoid any misunderstandings, I do believe any child is better off being raised by a gay couple or a single parent in Western Europe than rotting away at a foster home in Romania, but research has clearly shown there is a family pattern that has proved to be best for children’s development. It irks me to hear sentences that start with, “Considering she’s a single mother, she does fine…”.

Considering I’m not a multi-millionaire, I’ve got a few rather expensive hobbies. Considering I’m not a nuclear physicist by trade, I think I should be awarded the Nobel Prize. Considering I’m a female, I did a pretty good job peeing my boyfriend’s name into the snow (hypothetically; I’d never actually do that). Catch my drift? As long as the premise is a “No, but…”-excuse, there’s admittance of something to be lacking. From my point of view, with children being the focus, to add such a premise as the reason for being proud is just as absurd as my analogies. Why be proud of something if all one can deliver is “not the best, but…”? Be happy, glad, joyful, elated, euphoric about single mothers managing at parenting. But proud? On a theological note, in Judaism as well as in Christianity, pride is considered a sin (Ancient philosophers considered it a vice); it leads to hubris, decadence, and, if you believe in the existence of a superior being, blasphemy. Our elders used “pride” sparsely, maybe because they were simply raised that way, but maybe also because they understood that concept. In these days and age, where everything is extra-, hyper-, mega-, über-[add quantifier of choice], plain “joy” obviously doesn’t do the trick for many anymore.

I’d like to add that the comment this response is referring to makes statements about my actual persona that one cannot necessarily deduct from my comments or my posts on Jewlicious. While I may be the only blogger on there that has ever simultaneously worn more than half a dozen pieces of body jewellery and has donned dark blue hair for an extended period of time, my views on families have become rather traditional over the years through what I do and what I’ve come to understand. The comment this response is referring to also wishes for me never to be in certain situations without any evidence that I’d actually never been in such or similar situations. Also, I don’t believe in kharma, and if disagreeing with someone will puncture what others believe to be my kharma until it is perforated like toilet paper, so be it.

To shed some light onto the dark, I’ve been in a relationship with the same man for almost nine years. As in all relationships of substance, we’ve had our ups and downs, the distance of 3,800 miles occasionally adding to that. Since we both were into education when we met (as a good Ashkenazi diaspora Jew, he’s now in business), there was a mutual understanding not to rush into founding a family until we’d both established ourselves in life, thus building a solid foundation. Neither of us is perfect, but we see beauty in the respective other’s imperfection. He’s stubborn, I’m emotional. He hates pasta, I can see myself eating pasta three times a day, calling it “a happy day”. He dresses, uhmmm, conservatively, I love fashion. He’s forgotten my birthday five years in a row, I always make sure to remember his. But those points – while have been considered valid reasons for divorce in US courts (and that’s where most single parents come from) – are way below secondary. To love a person means to provide them with a space where they can be vulnerable in without being hurt. To love a person with every fibre of your being means to not let stand your vanities in the way of giving your partner that one happy smile. To love a person means to complement, and at that strengthening, each other. To love a person means going out of your way without gauging the value of what you’ll get in return. To love a person often means just being “there”, wherever that may be.

In those nine years, we had to struggle with a life-threatening medical condition on his part that lasted for about three years. All details aside, particularly then, I spent a lot of time and money on being overseas, often straining my resources to the max. During that time, a lot of people recommended a break-up to me, highlighting the inconveniences and the low odds of complete recovery. I argued that if I didn’t stick up to my partner in rough times, I didn’t deserve him in good times either. To put it into Shakespeare’s words:

Let me not to the marriage of true minds
Admit impediments. Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds,
Or bends with the remover to remove:
O no! it is an ever-fixed mark
That looks on tempests and is never shaken;
It is the star to every wandering bark,
Whose worth’s unknown, although his height be taken
Love’s not Time’s fool, though rosy lips and cheeks
Within his bending sickle’s compass come:
Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,
But bears it out even to the edge of doom.
If this be error and upon me proved,
I never writ, nor no man ever loved.
(Sonnet 116)

And that’s exactly where I see many relationships failing. Life can’t always be pancakes and lollipops. The feeling of being in love gradually gets replaced by the more substantial feeling of love, and most divorced couples that I know married before that substantial feeling set in. Divorce stats from the US I read last year indicated people mostly get divorced over trivial matters or out of convenience. Domestic abuse only made a minimal percentage of reasons for divorce. People get married to someone they consider “cute” and not too long afterwards get divorced when “cuteish” has turned into “annoying”. That is also where the nasty divorces stem from. People that have never really loved each other will not shy away from causing each other harm if it is to their benefit. Unfortunately, there often have kids been set into this world on the way from Cloud Number Nine to the divorce courts, and it’s the children that suffer the consequences of their parents’ dysfunctional marriage, one way or another. These days, early to mid twenties are those years when young adults change the most, when they get into professions and thus establish new social environments and, likely, interests. The situation is not like 80 years back, when an 18-year-old had already been a breadwinner for four years. People get older now, the phases of life get more outstretched, they mentally mature more slowly. That’s why I, for my part, find events irresponsible that are there to encourage, more than less rush or even guilt, young people into marriages before they’ve established themselves in life.

Also, people should reflect on what marriage means to them and what it’s supposed to be about. If it’s all about kitschy celebrations and a large choice of desserts, go visit Disneyland Paris. If it’s all about financial security despite equality of chances, go get a job. If it’s all about outdoing your friends as the first one to get married, go move to Central Africa; girls there usually get married off once they reach reproductive age. If it’s all about pleasing your parents, go grow up. If it’s all about getting hands on a certain guy before anybody else can, regardless of emotions, go see a shrink about narcissism.
Back in the days of King Solomon, weddings constituted out of sexual intercourse. If we re-understand the binding qualities and responsibilities that (can) come with sex, maybe we’ll also get a more responsible and mature grasp on relationships. But don’t let kids pay the price. And don’t celebrate those that have their kids pay the price. That is Kafkaesque.

Ramaz is perhaps the most prestigious of all overtly Jewish day schools in the nation. We can, therefore, deduce a few things about the Jewish community from this Modern Orthodox academy on the Upper East Side.

The Jewish Week reports on a new merit based scholarship that,

“…comes with $10,000 annually to help offset Ramaz’s tuition, which will top $30,000 this year for 12th grade. There is no application process; instead, the first cohort of 14 students was chosen based on their general applications and interviews. And in some cases scholarships are being offered to families who can well afford the pricey tuition without additional help.”

Would I prefer to also see financial aid offered specifically to those Jews of lesser means?

Yes.

Would I prefer to see Jews from “challenged” backgrounds get a leg up over everyone else?

No.

So what do we learn from this?

1) Jews ultimately prize merit. All the blather about how (some of us) treasure diversity is sheer bullshit. What many of us want most for our kids is a top quality education with the best and brightest they can be surrounded with. And for the all Jewish Ramaz to be held in such high esteem, well…that says a lot about how LITTLE we truly value the so-called strength of racial diversity, doesn’t it? Of course, I am sure that many of my friends on the social left (who themselves often attended private, all Jewish schools, unlike me who went to a public school) will tell you how important diversity really is…that is, for other peoples’ children, not their own. (I know, I know, doesn’t the adopted Korean kid count as diverse?)

2) Middle-class and working-class Jews seeking a traditional Jewish education for their children are increasingly being pushed to the haredi schools. The quality private schools never really had the same mandate to service the lower classes, and increasingly, only the haredim see a need to absorb Jews of lesser means. This translates into a choice between wither a haredi yeshiva system or a public school system, as the liberal and Modern Orthodox school are unaffordable to the masses of Jewry. For many Jews, this is an unattractive choice.

In the off chance that the Jewish community is actually serious about their concerns of a lessening affiliation, they should provide and subsidize other non-charedi educational options. Universal Jewish education should be a priority. Until that happens, I would strongly encourage those Jews of lesser means to understand that haredism isn’t worth the risk for your kids, and to respect the fact that the liberal and Modern Orthodox Jewish community simply has little use for Jews who aren’t rich.

Better to risk assimilation than haredism. Don’t send your children to a Chabad or B’nai Torah school system. It just isn’t worth the risk. Even the massive, massive problems of the “strengths” of diversity aren’t worth the risk of turning a child into haredi underachiever who speaks Yeshivish instead of English.

Instead, secular and liberal Jews need to mobilize and stand up to those attempting to constantly rig the standards of honors and gifted and talented programs in order to unjustifiably accept minority candidates who don’t really qualify for these programs in our public school system.

A Moreshet trip is being planned to turn our youth into penguin zombies. It is being backed by the Jewish Agency!! Failed Messiah has the story.

I am becoming more and more certain that the only way to stop these people is to move aggressively, not defensively. To develop literature and a curriculum like Discovery to recruit haredi Jews–preferably young haredi Jews– to become secular. BUT ONLY AT THEIR OWN PACE!!!!

They need to learn that the Torah cannot be literal; the reality of scientific method, and the error of our sages throughout history in this regard; the failures of “daas Torah;” etc.

Only through fighting back will we both reveal who they really are, and slow the unwanted recruitment of our youth into fundamentalism.

Start recruiting their youth, and the penguins will start rioting and burning shit down like the Muslims do when someone draws a cartoon. Education is great, but getting the haredim to reveal themselves consistently, through chaos and violence, is better. We may not be able to beat them, but we can get them to beat themselves.

ONLY THE BEST FOR OUR PUBLIC SCHOOL KIDS!

In an effort to “increase options? for Jews from public school backgrounds, Rabbi Burg has hired Rabbi Ori Shulevant to recruit public school graduates to Bais Ezra College. Bais Ezra was previously known as a program for mentally disabled adults, but now, thanks to the efforts of Rabbi Burg, public school graduates will be able to attend these elite programs as well.

Rabbi Burg explained that, “While its true that the Bais Ezra population may have had exposure to Orthodox culture at an earlier age, we are hopeful and confident that the public school graduates will be able to integrate successfully.

Rabbi Shafran of Agudath Israel has dismissed concerns that the developmentally disabled haredi population is inappropriate for integration with public school graduates merely because the former come from culturally insular backgrounds, noting, “Bais Ezra families are well known to be open-minded when it comes to their children marrying partners from secular backgrounds.

Steve Savitzky, the president of the Orthodox Union, pointed to Rina Kaplinsky, noting with obvious pride that, “Rina wanted to go to medical school and become a brain surgeon, but now she sits on the couch with the other residents, stares into space, and hums along to songs about mashiach.

Kaplinsky noted that, “I had doubts at first, but after they got my prescription right, things have been just great.

Anat (formerly “Beth) Rubenstein agrees, noting, “It’s so much easier to be frum in a non-ambulatory environment.

Ron Coleman, who teaches the residents how to write their name with crayons (attending this class requires the authorization of a social worker), denies that Bais Ezra is any less appropriate for public school graduates than a state or city school, and dismissed the almost hundred I.Q. point disparity between the public school students and the regular Bais Ezra population as “culturally biased against Orthodoxy’s developmentally disabled.

Applications are due five minutes before attending.

Rabbi Burg, the national director of NCSY, has an Op-Ed in this week’s Forward. Rabbi Burg is excited about Princeton’s decision “to enable students to work overseas before ever setting foot on the college campus.

While I understand why Rabbi Burg feels this is public validation on the merits of a year abroad (NCSY encourages its youth group membership to attend Israeli yeshivas for a year), Rabbi Burg also notes,

“Among yeshivas, there are a wide variety of options, for teens of all backgrounds and previous levels of education. Many yeshivas also offer joint year-abroad options with schools such as Yeshiva University and Touro College, which assists those concerned with college credits and the possibility of financial assistance.?

First of all, I think Rabbi Burg should be commended for his honesty about where these yeshiva students are being guided. In fact, NCSY itself heavily promotes and recruits for these dual curriculum schools, and has done so for decades. However, I would appeal to secular and liberal Jews–-and these are the Jews who comprise the Forward’s targeted readership—that Touro College is absolutely not academically acceptable for our youth.

I think Rabbi Burg should accept this already. Touro needs to be taken off the table of preferred choices for secular and liberal Jews by the yeshivas and seminaries that NCSY sends them to. Perhaps instead, as a compromise, Rabbi Burg could make a deal with Princeton and other Ivy League schools, as well as schools not in the Ivy League, but far, far superior to the likes of third tier Touro.

Earlier: Educating Rina, an Orthodox Union *success* story

Annie offered a few reasons why the haredim don’t eat right, and why they are so fat. One was particularly interesting,

Health and welfare classes don’t seem to be taught in Beis Yaakov schools or comparable Yeshivot. Kids don’t learn about the food pyramid or other health related information, as parents are worried that sex ed info will get snuck in there.